My last post on this subject as it achieves little as Rich has made it clear that this discussion is over and nothing will change. vushti is spot on with his comments and that is how 90% of successful forums run simply because it's the members that are the forum - their requirements change over the passage of time and if the forum doesn't accommodate those members wishes (within sensible reason) then members leave and there is no forum. Just like being at the pub, threads can wander and so long as basics such as politics and religion don't come into it everything is usually fine with the occasional whisper in someone's ear. Lose the members through lack of interest and a forum dies a slow and painful death.
I've gained a lot from this forum in the short time I've been here and I'd hate to see it die through lack of participation when it has such good potential - that's why I proposed the apology route from the three antagonists (something the mods should have been seeking to achieve) and two of the three were gracious enough to do it unconditionally but lack of input from the third killed the idea. Clearly some of those who are now posting on FB still visit but only to comment in this thread. I see a bleak future for this place without a level of compromise that is clearly impossible.
I hope the place survives but I predict 5 or 6 posts a month and virtually no visitors in due course.